Girdblog has been asking writers what seems like a simple question, “What is love?” We got some insightful answers from six writers from Ghana, Cameroon and Kenya. Find out how they (un)define love below.
“The most expected, yet the most difficult question. Love would be conquering fear so that I bring into my space, someone/something that would challenge my inadequate knowledge of myself. I see a self-examination, a self-learning so that I can love truly and honorably.”
-Robbie Ajjuah Fantini
Robbie Ajjuah Fantini is the Author of Talking Robbish. Visit her website: robertaturkson.com to find out more about her work.
“For me, love is many sets of actions. In a relationship, it’s when someone decides to be kind, patient, thoughtful, giving and all the other good things in spite of the other party. It is what you do. Not a feeling. Or I should say, not just a feeling.”
-Nana Ama Agyeman Asante
Nana Ama Agyeman Asante is a journalist who in her own words is ‘crazy and curious’ she blogs at nnyamewaa.com
“The conscious sharing with, believing in and acting on that belief of yourself with another. Love is the action taken upon believing in someone else and the possibility of them with you. It is the behaviour displayed in appreciation of who another is despite the flaws you are conscious of. It is the willing sharing of self and another, opening up to celebrate what is and what may be.”
Monique Kwachou is a Cameroonian writer and youth advocate gradually developing a career in academia with focus on gender, education, and development.
Metaphoric hole for a never-ending maze
Unlearning the language of skin
Unlearning the memory of coexistence
Music with no rhythm
Voice without purpose
Lips that are unfamiliar with the curve of a smile
A sun that only sets
The absence of absence to nurture fondness of the heart.
An empty glass”
-Ama Asantewa Diaka (aka Poetra)
Ama Asantewa Diaka is a writer, poet, content editor, designer, contemplating geek and a voracious reader. She blogs at asantewableedswords.wordpress.com
“Stopping the run away from your shame and not fixing it either. [Love is] hugging it [your shame], and saying you are a part of me… I love you, anyway.
Derek Walcott, says it better with his poem, Love After Love:
The time will come
when, with elation
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror
and each will smile at the other’s welcome,
and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you
all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,
the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.
Timothy Kiprop Kimutai emerged the second runner’s up for the Kwani? Manuscript Project. His book The Water Spirits will soon be published. He is a co-founder of Jalada Africa, a Pan African writers’ collective. Kiprop has edited an anthology of short stories themed around afro-futures, porn sex and insanity, all of which have been published at jalada.org
“Willing to do everything for someone without expecting anything in return. Accepting that person’s flaws, liking everything about that person.”
Sharlene Apple is the author of TOWGA— The One Who Got Away. Sharlene’s TOWGA is an erotic adventure that will challenge your thoughts on morality and sexuality.